“Goin’ to the Chapel (or Camp) and We’re Gunna Get Married…”

5 years ago today, I married my best friend, Jesse. Since my sister posted about her special day, here are some pictures and details about mine…

All photos are from our great friends at Ruple Photography.

The Venue:

Well, as you can see from these first few pictures, our wedding took place in a not so common venue: at a camp: Camp Caudle. It is actually the first place I ever set eyes on Jesse. And what better place to get married than the place you first met your spouse!? Jesse attended here as a young pre-teen in his youth group every summer up to the present, now bringing kids from the youth group he works with. When we met, I was attending camp as a counselor and he as a camper! When he began college where I was, we had a close friendship and later began dating: all the while, attending Camp Caudle together with his home church for retreats, spring break trips, and summer sessions.  It is a very special place that we call another “home,” at least for part of the year, and we were more than happy to find out that we could celebrate our wedding day there……for free!!!

The Ceremony:

Our ceremony was pretty short and sweet, for a number of reasons. First, we knew that the wedding party and guests would not be too crazy about being outside in the summer heat for an extended period of time. Second, we had decided on a few meaningful elements that we wanted to include, making for a quick ceremony.  Also, our ceremony was probably cut a little shorter than even we had planned, because wind and rain began to threaten our big event!

Here are some meaningful things we included in our ceremony:

  • The wedding party and I walked down the ailse(s) to One Voice by Brandy. I picked these lyrics out when I was in high school. You can click here to read them.
  •  Opening prayer by my dad & closing prayer by his grandfather
  • The circle shape of the chairs and stage in the middle was “stolen” from a friend of mine. I loved the idea of all of your friends and family surrounding you and supporting you.  During the opening prayer our wedding party actually stood around the perimeter of the stage.
  • We sang 3 or 4 short praise songs with everyone; words were included on the programs
  • Jesse & I had written our own vows to each other
  • Our ordained minister was his preacher from years of growing up as a teen (and at camp!)
  • A white tent served as a “lobby or entry-way” into the ceremony where guests signed in and viewed pictures of our parents and grandparents’ weddings. The tent was also helpful to shield me from Jesse until I walked down the aisle.
  • Best Man: his brother, Maid of Honor: my sister :)

Like I said before, the rain started to threaten our big day, but It didn’t do too much harm. Here are some pictures as proof that we just went with the flow:

The Reception:

Our reception took place at camp as well, just up the hill from the ceremony site.  Camp Caudle has a big amphitheater that serves as a perfect place for gathering for sermons, worship, basketball games and talent shows.  We opted to use the court area as the space for eating. (If it had rained out our ceremony, we would have used it for that as well.)

Here are some details about our reception:

  • The food served at our wedding was from a local “mom and pop” diner. There was corn, beans, barbecue, potato salad, coleslaw, sweet tea, and kool-aid. We are southern kids through and through.
  • Jesse LOVES spiderman, so his groom’s cake was tailored to him of course.
  • Guests were encouraged to leave us notes of advice or scriptures that we still treasure today and read from time to time.
  • We smashed each other with cake, and needless to say, Jesse got me good!: classic Jesse move. You know I had to get him back!
  • All flower arrangements incorporated (artificial) hydrangeas, which are my favorite. Growing up, my pa-paw used to have hydrangea bushes at his house. We still have the same artificial flowers around our house today as decoration!

 Our wedding day was definitely one of a kind. Friends and family were SUPER helpful in planning, preparing, and executing my DIY dream wedding. The rain just added to the uniqueness of the event. It fit in perfectly with the “theme” that was written on our programs: “Love knows no bounds.” We got through the rain together, which is what marriage is all about.  I must say, I will never forget our special day. It was one of those moments you will treasure for life. God has blessed the two of us since the beginning, and the chapter of our wedding was no exception.

When I Said, “I Do.”

Today 4 years ago I married my soul mate!

I was just telling Joshua the other day how I feel like we are better matched than I thought we were when I married him. It’s a blessing to share life with him!

In honor of that special day, I’d like to share some of our wedding pictures (All photography by Allison Jansen)

The First Look

In order to take pictures before the wedding (and maybe because we knew we wouldn’t be able to wait!), we chose to see each other before the ceremony. I’m glad we did. We had a very special moment, just the two of us.

Before the Ceremony

We got married at Quail Creek Resort in Hartselle, Alabama.

This is one of my favorite pictures from our wedding. Joshua had just finished walking his mom down the aisle and started tearing up. So his brother-in-law gathered the groomsmen and my dad in for a prayer before the ceremony.

The Ceremony

I wanted the ceremony to be really special. And it certainly was. We were prayed over by our families, prayed for by my uncle, Joshua’s youth minister, and Joshua’s dad.

Also, his dad was our officiate. I can’t imagine anyone else doing it! It was very personal. He talked about Joshua growing up and about mine and Joshua’s relationship. He even got teary-eyed!

During the ceremony, Joshua presented me with his purity ring he had worn since his youth, we lit unity candles, exchanged the same vows my parents wrote and vowed 28 years before, and exchanged rings. Taking about an hour, I’d say we tied the knot pretty good!

Did I mention we washed each other’s feet too?

This was something I had never seen done, but I wanted to incorporate it after hearing the song, “Greatest Lover of All Time” by Eric and Leslie Ludy. We washed each others feet to this song to tell each other, “I’m going to love you like Christ loves you.”

The Greatest Lover of All Time

Princely honor set aside
As He washed the feet of His humble bride
Pouring out His breath and blood
As a sacrifice for the one he loved

And this love that spills out everything
Is the love I pledge to you
Like the One who gave it all for me
I will give my life for you

All I have, all I am
I give to you in covenant
Like broken bread and poured-out wine
I’ll love you like
The greatest Lover of all time

Heroic love that led a King
to choose the road of suffering
Selflessness that just begins
Where human understanding ends

And this love that takes the lowest place
Is the love that I now choose
Like the One who gave His life away
I will give my life for you

His love gave without holding back
So I will love you like that
His love paid the ultimate price
So I will lay down my life

It wouldn’t be a complete post about our wedding if I didn’t include this picture. This is my in-laws family Bible. My parents-in-law along with Joshua’s sister and her husband took this same picture on their wedding day. Up until today I always thought it was turned to 1 Corinthians 13. But after closer examination I realized that it’s actually on Ephesians 6! Either way, it still is symbolic of our marriage being built around the Word.

The Reception

The grooms table was all about hunting- from pictures of us with frogs and pheasants, to chocolate deer. We also had fortune cookies because the night that Joshua proposed we had a Chinese take-out picnic. That night my fortune cookie, read “Pleasures await you by the water” and it just so happened that Joshua proposed by a lake! I think Joshua’s said something like, “Being frugal would be wise,” which I guess is applicable since he had bought the ring! Anyway, our fortune cookies read,

“Good friends deserve good fortune! May it come your way!”
“Wishing you good fortune in life, from the new husband and wife.”
“Thanks for blessing us today, good fortune will surely come your way!”
“May your night be as sweet as this cookie!”
“We’re so ‘fortune-ate’ to have you in our lives.”
“The love that Joshua and Julia share is worth a fortune… cookie!”

The best thing about our wedding, so I’m told time after time, was this punch! I wouldn’t know because I didn’t get any (what was I thinking?), but anytime I mention something about our wedding around one of our guests, it seams like they always mention this punch. So here’s the recipe, if you’re interested!

Coffee Punch

1 cup water
3 cups sugar
¼ cup instant coffee granules
1 gallon milk
½ gallon vanilla ice cream, softened
½ gallon chocolate ice cream, softened

Bring water to a boil in a saucepan.  Add sugar and coffee.  Reduce heat and simmer, stirring constantly until sugar and coffee dissolve. Remove and cool.
Combine milk and coffee mixture in punch bowl.  Just before serving, stir ice cream into bowl.  Serve immediately. Makes 7 quarts.

The First Dance

We danced to “We are Man and Wife” by Michelle Featherstone.

The 2 busy brunettes!

Forget the shoes!

Thanks for stopping by!

100 Ways to Keep the Flame Alive

We are coming up on Valentine’s Day and it’s a common time to think about keeping the flame alive. When Josh and I were newlyweds (ok, I guess being married <4 years still makes us newlyweds. It’s like when my students say, “When I was young… or when I was growing up…”) anyway, when we were first married, we attended a Sunday morning marriage class at church. One of our lessons was on “keeping the flame alive.” We were given this “cheat sheet” and it has hung on our fridge ever since. I don’t know who originally wrote it, but it’s good stuff. Too bad when we got it, Joshua instantly crossed out #41!

It’s written for a husband to do things for his wife, but it can easily be used the other way around. Click on the sheets below to download.

Sometimes Josh will be funny (or try to be at least!) and walk up to the fridge, point to #32 (smile more often) and look back at me and smile. He’ll act like he just did something so romantic. Or he’ll walk up to the fridge, point to #27 (Tell her yes when you want to say no) and say, “yes” even when I hadn’t been asking him a question! I say, “It doesn’t work like that!” Maybe you and your significant other can use it in the way it’s intended and have a little push in keeping the flame alive.

How do you keep the flame alive?